I went into Veg Speed Date with no expectations. I just wanted to have fun, meet people, and get out of my introvert comfort zone. For the event I put on a tight dress and heels – ready to slay. Noah immediately caught my eye. I do have a thing for guys with long hair. When it came time for our “date” it was his upbeat attitude that really charmed me. The conversation flowed easily and I could see right away we had a lot in common. I talked about my grad school aspirations and the work I wanted to do in food justice. He recommended a related book. He was enthusiastic, science-y and super sweet. It even turned out we’re both interested in cob natural building. The 5 minutes went way too quickly. We were an obvious match and he emailed me the next day.
Truth be told, I was a bit distracted. I had multiple matches and was looking forward to getting to know new people. Also, I had woken up the morning after Veg Speed Date and spontaneously decided to move to a remote island in Washington. It’s not as weird as it sounds – my job in Portland felt like a dead end, I have family on the island, and I needed some mental space to study for the GRE. I figured Noah and I could still be friends though. I replied to his email with the news that I was moving. Fortunately he was still interested in being friends as well and we started hanging out regularly. I really enjoyed his company. A few weeks later I had my car packed and was ready to leave my Portland life behind. The day before I left is when it finally dawned on me – I have feelings for Noah. Like, real feelings. I enjoyed our friendship and had at first told him I wasn’t ready for anything more than that. As we were parting I opened up and asked him if he’d be interested in trying to date long distance. I think he was pretty stoked. He wanted me to do what I needed to do, which at that time was get out of Portland. I was uncertain if long distance would work, but I knew I couldn’t just let him go. I wanted to try.
Even though it was hard to leave, I knew I was making the right move. I had personal goals and things I needed to work out within myself. Originally I thought I would live on the island for a year. That estimate quickly shortened to 6 months. And ultimately I was there for just 2. Noah was fully supportive the whole time and the distance didn’t keep us from starting a wonderful relationship. We talked on the phone daily, streamed movies together, and got to see each other every few weeks for fun dates. I stand by my claims that I did not move back just because of him. I’m an independent woman! I just realized very quickly that island life was not for me.
Meanwhile, some very exciting things were happening in Noah’s life as well. He was buying his first house! When I got back to Portland he was in the thick of the paperwork. I was very much aware of how young our relationship still was so I tried to keep a calculated distance from the home buying process. I was out of my mind excited though. The purchase went smoothly and soon I was helping him move. We started day-dreaming together about projects we could do in the garden and around the house and went for walks around the new neighborhood. When I came back to Portland I’d found my own apartment. But I really only felt at home with Noah. I spent more and more time at the new house and pretty soon we decided I should officially move in.
During our first few months all the changing circumstances were stressful. But Noah had my back the whole time. So, even when life frustrations got the best of me and I was a bit grumpy he was open and communicative. The experience of growing together through adversity, choosing to focus on having fun, and sharing new experiences are some of the things I appreciate most about being with Noah.
I was not expecting to meet someone I connect with so deeply. I just opened myself up to new possibilities and to my surprise, found Noah. He’s someone I can rely on for encouragement, have philosophical conversations with, or just cuddle up on the couch with watching Netflix. I want to be cliche and say I have no idea how I got so lucky. But, I’m also a realist. Meeting someone special does involve a certain amount of chance. But it’s equally important to set up the right circumstances and be in the right head space. I would definitely recommend Veg Speed Date to anyone who is ready to get out there and make connections.